Making the Most of Your Quarter Life Crisis - Above Average Adulting

Making the Most of Your Quarter Life Crisis

October 12, 2017

For those of you who don’t know what a quarter life crisis is… see below.

In all seriousness though – the Quarter Life Crisis appears to be a common phenomenon now a days (insert disparaging joke about millennials here). If you’re also part of the group experiencing the pangs of the 20-something impasse, you’re clearly not alone and there’s good news! This can be an extremely productive time and can set you on your path to success (whatever that may mean to you).

The Millionaire Course Seminar by Marc Allen mentions a belief from Ancient India that there are three fundamental processes in the universe: creation, preservation and transformation. When I started jotting down ideas for this post, this phrase kept repeating in my head. It just made so much sense to apply these processes to getting life on track in a time when you are in “crisis” mode.

Making the Most of Your Quarter Life Crisis - Above Average AdultingCreation

This is the most fun part, and probably the easiest “step”! Lucky you, start here! Fun fact: you’re still young. You have so much time to start trying a ton of different hobbies. By your mid-life crisis you can have a couple under your belt that you know you enjoy and you’re good at! Learn to cook or speak a new language. Play a new sport or an instrument. Start a garden or building furniture. The possibilities are endless!

What are my new hobbies, you ask? I’m learning how to code and how to play the ukulele!

Preservation

Starting new adventures and sprinting towards your dreams are both awesome. However, it’s important to maintain and “preserve” yourself to set you in the best possible situation to keep going! How can you do that? There’s two main ways that come to mind.

  1. Get a handle on your finances
  2. Make healthy choices

Preserving your money and your body/mind are two great ways to start. If you can bring yourself to a good place financially, you have one less excuse for not pursuing your path to success. Looking for tips on how to get started? Click here! I also, suggest getting a tracking/overview ap like Mint if you have no idea what your spending habits, or financial situation is like.

And as much as it’s a no-brainer, those of us in our mid-twenties may not always be making the healthiest choices (I’m looking at you “just one more beer”). Making healthy choices now, means that you can keep doing what you love later. Did you start playing (and loving) a sport after the “Creation” step? Is that second Big Mac really helping you perform better? Don’t worry, I’m guilty of bad choices, too, but we can always work on making better ones!

Making healthy choices also includes your mental health! If you have a major anxiety/stress related burnout, it’s going to make it a lot harder to enjoy anything. Not sure if you’re already heading there? Head over to this article on Business Insider.

Transformation

Find Your Passion

This is the place I currently find myself in my own quarter life crisis. In my opinion, this is the most important step. This is where you ask all those fun deep questions.

What’s my purpose? What makes me happy? What am I here to accomplish? :

Ideal Scene

One way to start delving into these questions is to picture your “Ideal Scene”. This idea is brought up in The Millionaire Course Seminar by Marc Allen. I’ll say this up front- Don’t hold back. If money, time, relationships, etc. were not a factor, what would you want your life to look like? Is there something you want to learn, or a cause that is near and dear to your heart? Do you want to quit your 9 to 5 and roadtrip across the country, or even live abroad as a digital nomad for awhile? Would being a stay-at-home dog mom make you the happiest person in the world? Does the idea of creating your own pizza franchise give you the happy goosebumps? No dream is too big or too small. It’s your ideal life.

Nightmare Scenario

On the flip side there is the “Nightmare Scenario” that is brought up by Tim Ferris in The 4 Hour Work Week. This is the motivator to make you actually take your next steps after you figure out what your passion is. Essentially, it boils down to – what is the absolute worst things that could happen if you were to pursue your dream? Write it down. Write down literally every bad thing that could happen. Then write down what you could do to reverse, cope with, or get around that nightmare. Generally, you’ll find that even your most nightmarish fears, are all conquerable. You can overcome those obstacles, and you’ll be less fearful if you tackle it ahead of time. After seeing that the situation isn’t as dire as you thought, you’ll feel more ready to start working towards your dream.

Struggling?

If the Ideal Scene and Nightmare Scenario are really a struggle for you, just start with a My Favorite Things board on Pinterest. After awhile of building up my own boards, it became very clear that I love the ocean, flowers, books and dogs. There are endless possibilities and passions that I can pursue that involve those affinities.

I would also highly suggest heading over the Classy Career Girl and thiscache for even more step by step details for finding your passion! Both sites really focus on how to use your passion to find your dream job. The sooner the better! Wouldn’t you like to start your dream career today?

Quarter Life Crisis – Your Turn

I hope you’ve found some of this information helpful! Where are you in your Quarter Life Crisis journey? What have you found to be your greatest struggle? Where have you seen success? Let me know in the comments below!

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  • Taylor

    This is a really interesting topic! I’m also in my twenties and am going through a very tough period. I think we have expectations for ourselves and an image of what we think society expects from us. I.e We should have acheived this already, we should have done this by this age, I should be in a better position at my age….
    It’s a difficult time. One thats not recognized as much as it perhaps should be! Thanks for the great post 🙂

    Taylor
    http://www.theusoftay.com

    October 15, 2017 at 7:51 AM Reply
  • Mike @ Reroutelifestyle

    I think I am still going through my quarter life crisis haha. I think it’s never too late to find what you are passionate about. I agree with Timothy Ferris in that 4 hour work week that even the worst case scenario isn’t that bad when you actually go all in on what you want to do!

    October 17, 2017 at 2:22 PM Reply
  • beautyblogger343

    Great post

    October 23, 2017 at 5:55 PM Reply
  • jbenz47

    I just entered my twenties 2 years ago (the most complicated way possible to say I’m 22), and not quite in a crisis, but still feel underqualified to do much of anything. It’s a weird phase. But either way, your post has some really good tips in it! I like the nightmare scenario the most. Writing down everything that could go wrong in achieving your dream could be more comforting than it sounds. Thanks for sharing!

    October 23, 2017 at 7:49 PM Reply
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