How to Stay Positive When Adulting is Hard - Above Average Adulting

How to Stay Positive When Adulting is Hard

August 31, 2017

I don’t know about y’all but I’m feeling like I’m in a rut. Summer is coming to an end, which means Chicago “winter is coming” (GOT anyone?) and that thought alone is throwing me out of whack. Work has felt tough lately, I recently switch to eating vegan and all I want is cheese, I’m still working on saving $10,000 in one year which is making finances tight in other areas. Lets face it. Sometimes adulting is just hard. But there are some little things you can do to help you stay positive!

Remember you can’t please everyone

you can be the ripest juiciest peach in the world and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches:

This one took me a long time to understand but now in my 20’s I recognize it more and more. Remember that you can’t make everyone happy so you might as well do what makes you happy!

Surround yourself with supportive people

More importantly surround yourself with supportive people who help you stick to your goals aka people who drive you to be better. For me this is my parents and a couple of my close friends. When I get down in the dumps they’re there to remind me what I’m working for.

Make a plan

This one can be difficult. Remember your goals and make a plan with small steps. Nothing feels more satisfying than checking things off of your to do list!

Create a vision board

Remember what you’re working towards right now. Maybe it’s work, travel or fitness related? Vision boards work great for all of these! For me – I created a My Favorite Things board just to remind me of all of the lovely things in the world.

Have a Happier Morning

Make sure you start off your day right! Rather than make this post longer… head over to this post dedicated purely to adjusting your morning routine.


Be kind to others. Like your coworkers shoes? Tell her. Did your friend get a haircut? Let them know you noticed it. Smile at people as they walk past you (this one is a struggle for me as I am a victim of RBF). Complimenting and being kind to others has the lovely impact of making you feel a little better, too.

And if none of that helps your adulting struggles, here’s some inspo from Beyonce:

How are you daring to grow? #Beyonce #ContessaQuotes #InspirationalQuotes:


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  • Krista Aoki

    Girl, adulting definitely has its hard moments.

    One thing that changed for me this summer was committing to a happier morning. I’m on a weird schedule thanks to working in hospitality but I try to either do yoga or go on a quick run before work. That, combined with coffee just really makes me FEEL better + more positive + productive.

    GREAT tips. Def. lead to above-average adulting. 😉


    September 3, 2017 at 2:18 PM Reply
    • Kelly

      I’m working on getting up a little earlier so I can workout in the morning! However, until I’m able to drag my carcass out of bed before the sun is up I’ll have to stick to cuddling my dog haha

      September 8, 2017 at 9:21 PM Reply
  • Michael Wissman

    I like to try the last step as often as possible! Great post!

    September 3, 2017 at 10:33 PM Reply
    • Kelly

      I try to give at least one genuine compliment a day. It gets easier and easier!

      September 8, 2017 at 9:22 PM Reply
  • Danielle

    Remembering that I can’t please everyone is something I have to work on every day. Great post!

    September 4, 2017 at 11:34 AM Reply
    • Kelly

      Put that quote on you desk and never forget it! It takes a long time to get used to 🙂

      September 8, 2017 at 9:24 PM Reply
  • Irene Wanderlusters

    Hi Kelly! Great post and great tips.
    Adulting can really sucks sometimes, but it also has its good things 🙂
    I ike the number 4, create a vision board. I heard about it a long time ago and I thought at first that it was kind of silly, but once I started using it I have to admit that it works. It gets you motivated to keep going and reach your goals and expectations.


    Irene W.

    September 4, 2017 at 12:37 PM Reply
    • Kelly

      It took me a long time to make a vision board, too! It always felt too “woowoo” to me haha but now I love looking at it when I need a little motivation.

      September 8, 2017 at 9:25 PM Reply

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